Questions to ask your mother-in-law

13 questions to ask your mother-in-law about faith and beliefs

Belief, practice, what changed and what caused it. The rule they lived by, in their own words, may be the book's epigraph. Ask what her husband was like when they met. She will tell you more about your spouse in that answer than you have learned in years.

How to use this list. Ask by voice and record it. One or two questions a visit is plenty; the follow-up ("Who else was there?" "What did she say?" "What happened the day after?") matters more than the next question. The 4 marked tender come last: ask them once, late, in person, with "or would you rather leave that?" in the question.

1. What did you believe about God as a child, and what do you believe now?
2. What rule did you live by that you never said out loud?Ask for it in their words. That sentence may be the book's epigraph.
3. What did your parents teach you that you kept, and what did you throw out?
4. What did Sunday, or the Sabbath, look like in your house growing up? Who insisted, and who slipped out?
5. Was there a minister, rabbi, priest or teacher who actually mattered to you? What did they say?
6. Did you ever stop going, or start again? What happened?A belief that changed is a chapter. A belief that never did is a sentence.
7. What did you teach your children to believe, and did it take?
8. Is there a prayer, a hymn or a verse you still know by heart? Say it.
9. Who said grace, or made the toast, and what did they always say?Verbatim. The toast is a line of family liturgy.
10. Was there a moment your faith was tested?tender
11. What do you pray for, or hope for, when it's late and nobody is listening?tender
12. What do you think happens after? Has that answer changed?tender
13. Was there a death, a birth or an illness that changed what you believe?tender

What these questions are for

A good book about a person needs more than facts. It needs the person on the page: how they talked, what they wanted, what they did when it mattered, the story that shows them. These questions cover 9 of the things a writer needs about your mother-in-law: beliefs and values, their voice and sayings, where they came from, habits, routines and work, key relationships, contradictions, the story that shows them, wants, fears and wounds, loss and fate.

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